Families of Alcoholics & Addicts
Dear Parents, Family, and Loved Ones,
Welcome to Ocean Hills Recovery. This program is your family member’s first step on a lifelong path of freedom from addiction. Addiction is not a moral issue, but a chronic, progressive, and potentially fatal disease from which there is no known cure. This disease can be brought into remission, though, and prevented from exacting the ultimate price. Our goal is to assist you and your loved one in understanding and arresting this illness.
Addiction is a family disease. All those close to the addicted person suffer. As your loved one recovers, it is important that you begin the process of recovery, too. You and your family member are now members of a team designed to support you through this difficult time and your recovery is our highest priority. As an active member of this team, your efforts will play a major role in the support of your loved one and in the recovery of the entire family unit. Remember, no program can be effective if you do not become and active participant. It is up to you to do the work!
Recovery can be a shock for both the addicted person and their family. Your addict has been numbing their body and their emotions for a long time. They may be extremely uncomfortable for their first few weeks as their feelings begin to resurface. Family members may feel the strain of this discomfort in their loved one’s voice when they speak to them on the phone. They may protest against the process and the program and may put pressure on their family members to “rescue” them. This is completely normal. It is important, at this point, that the family and staff work together. By backing up each other’s authority and position, we can work as a team to reassure the addict that the pain will pass.
We hope that you come to understand that addiction, like other chronic illnesses, is no respecter of social position, personal achievement, intelligence, health, strength, will power, or any other factor. It manifests in all walks of life. You will find that the problems incurred in the life of addiction are common to almost all those afflicted and their families. You are not alone!
We ask that you be open, honest, willing, and teachable and that you take direction so that you can grow along with your family member. Allow us to help you to learn a new way of living, to enrich your life and the life of your loved one. By learning to communicate thoughts and feelings, listening, asking questions, and following simple instructions, you will be able to reform your family and your life.
Our drug and alcohol rehab staff is here to help. If there is anything you do not understand or if you need our help, please do not hesitate to ask.
With warm regards,
The staff of Ocean Hills Recovery